1 Rousseau said: "Nature has shaped me, and then smashed the mold." It sounds conceited, in fact, apply to everyone. Unfortunately, most people endure not this lost mold, so common mold itself to reshape it again, the results of each other have become so similar. 2 Self-love who can love, rich to gifts. To give people the joy of life, must be a full of the joy of life. Do not love themselves, and neither is a lovely person, and can not truly love others. He took his own resentment to others there, even if he is to do good deeds, his resentment will continue to be revealed in every one of his good deeds added to the injury. Benefit from a self-pity, there are even more uncomfortable than this thing? 3 Only love their own people will not have a real love, only the arrogance of possession. Do not love their own people do not have true love, only a humble dedication. If love is an art, then the appropriate self-love is the kind of quality, only people with such qualities to become artists of love. 4 Between people, compassion, righteousness, and love. Therefore, the world of self-denial to help people of compassion and self-sacrifice cavalier. However, everyone is after all, is a biological and psychological individual, the primary concern of most cut has only the most vivid sense. In this sense, for everyone, he is most concerned about himself, the world's most concerned about him or his own. Others than his own more concerned about him to others than about each person own more concerned with his, are contrary to the characteristics of individual biology and psychology. The conclusion is: everyone should be self-reliance. 5 Truly own is not an easy thing to do. The world many people, you can say he is casually something, such as a career, an identity, a role, with the exception of his own. If a person is always in accordance with the views of others lives, not have their own independent thinking, always busy for external affairs, there is no inner life, then said he was not himself a little wronged him. Indeed, from his head tocheap jackets salehis heart, in which you have not the slightest really belong to his own things, he was just a shadow of someone else's affairs, a machine fills. 6 Life, you can not live without friends. All my friends, can not be missing the most important one, that is their own. Missing a friend, a person even if the friends all over the world, only the surface of the lively, in fact, he is very empty. Can friends and their own, the key is there a higher self, this self-care in the world struggle in a rational manner. Reasonable care, which is the characteristics of friendship. Some people do not love themselves, blindly self-hatred, as if their enemy. Some people love their irrational, blind narcissism, as if his lover. In both cases, the higher self is absent. 7 For the goodwill of others, recognition and reward to do if people do not recognize, will be equal to zero. Own conscience, can life do, even without the recognition of a person, also remains intact. The reason I prefer to eat on their own ability, one of the reasons to worry and effort do not have to run I am not good at relationships. 8 I was talking to a five years old boy, telling him, I will be magic, a person can become a fly. He listened very surprised, and asked that I can not turn him into a fly, I said can. He fell into meditation, and then asked me, turned into flies can not be changed back, I can not say, he decided to let me change. I want to become any kind of experience any kind of life, including kings, financial magnates, saints, monks, bandits, prostitutes, etc., or even willing to become a fly, but only to change back to my own. Therefore, in discount fred perrythe final analysis, I prefer to my own. 9 As bodily pain, mental suffering is shared. Care of others can only transfer up to your attention on the pain, but did not change the essence of suffering. Even in the suffering of a common bear, each person must also be solely responsible for that suffering, this pain is not eased because a fellow-sufferer. For the suffering of others, our sympathy for a start can be quite active, but once the pain continues, sympathy would subside. Our patience in this respect is far less than the patience of someone else's sins. The sins of others as if we had to endure the fate of the one we had to endure the suffering of others, but almost is evil. I do not intentionally mean, but which leads to a very real conclusion: When you suffer great pain, you have to self-love, know how to endure, as far as possible without your pain to disturb others. 10 The losers often become the burden of the winners. Self-esteem of the losers is not to accept charity, self-esteem of the winners is not itself to the donor. 11 Get to understand the great joy of life. However, the one pursued the understanding of understanding, there was nothing else they'd rather die a wretch, entirely lies in the understanding of others above their value, often do not value. 12 Do a cold spectators and critics, this is an accomplishment, it allows us to maintain some sort of sober, avoid falling into the pretentious or Guyingzilian ridiculous and pathetic situation. 13 Everyone to write their own history, but this historical lack of careful readers. We had no time to read their own history, even if read, but also repeat itself hastily read.